Well, then I walk and keep everything I came in with into the marriage and everything I made myself while we were married with me and the same goes for him.
To me, this is romantic. Our assets will be spelled out so there is no confusion, upfront we know what's going on. If there is kids and they are not grown up, then that will be spelled out too, including him taking full financial responsibility for them. I didn't have them, they didn't come out of my vagina so I'm not gonna take financial responsibility for them. It would be unethical for me to do that as well as suppressive.
At my age, the game has changed, we're older but not colder. To some people prenups seem cold, distant, a contract, not romantic. To me and my soulmate this life, it will be very romantic. We both have the guts to go in with our eyes wide open and be totally upfront and honest with each other.
I'll accept baggage but under normal circumstances. My soulmate this life has high ethical and moral standards, he loves his children and wants the best for them including their future.
Though I might be their step mom, I'm not their mother. They'll know and understand that I am not a replacement for their mother. So he will have to take full responsibility for them, a trust account to be paid for each child until they are 18 years old.
That also handles the what if he dies issue or loses his job or business or his money etc etc, he won't put me in a situation of having to handle his prior commitments which have nothing to do with me. He loves me enough to think about me in this way. That's romantic.